Most reps don’t realize they’re doing it.
They show up to meetings with good intentions. They bring coffee. They make small talk. They “just wanted to check in.”
What they’re actually doing is stealing something far more valuable than their time — they’re stealing their customer’s time.
And the worst part? Most of them have no idea they’re the problem.
The Rule
Rule #4: Bring value. Don’t steal oxygen.
If you can’t clearly explain why a conversation needs to happen before it starts, you probably shouldn’t be having it.
This isn’t about being cold or transactional. It’s about respect.
Your customer’s time is one of their most limited and valuable resources. Every meeting, call, or “quick sync” you request takes time away from their actual job. When you show up without a clear point of view, without an insight, or without a specific reason tied to their business, you’re not building the relationship — you’re just taking up space.
That’s what I call stealing oxygen.
Why This Matters More Than You Think
Most salespeople operate from a place of activity instead of intention.
They schedule meetings because “it’s been a while.” They swing by offices because they were “in the area.” They send calendar invites with vague subjects like “Catch up” or “Quick sync.”
None of these are inherently bad — until you realize the customer didn’t ask for them and isn’t getting anything meaningful out of them.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth:
If the customer can’t clearly see the value of spending time with you, they’ll eventually stop giving it to you.
Strong salespeople don’t just fill calendars. They protect them — both theirs and their customer’s.
How to Stop Being an Oxygen Thief
Before you ever request someone’s time, answer these three questions:
- What specific insight or point of view am I bringing? (Not just information — perspective.)
- How does this directly connect to something that matters to them right now? (Their goals, challenges, or risks.)
- What is the clear outcome or next step this conversation should create? (If there isn’t one, why are we talking?)
If you can’t answer these questions honestly, don’t send the calendar invite. Reschedule it. Or cancel it.
Professional selling isn’t about how many meetings you can get on the books. It’s about how many conversations actually move something forward.
The Hardest Part
The hardest part of this rule isn’t knowing it — it’s having the discipline to follow it when you’re behind on activity or feeling pressure to “stay visible.”
It’s much easier to send a vague “Let’s catch up” message than it is to do the work required to bring real value. But easy doesn’t win in sales. Easy just keeps you busy.
The reps who consistently win are the ones willing to be selective with other people’s time. They’d rather have fewer, higher-quality conversations than a full calendar full of polite time-wasting.
Final Thought
Your customers don’t owe you their time. They give it to you when they believe it’s worth it.
So the next time you’re about to request a meeting, ask yourself one simple question:
Am I bringing value… or am I just stealing oxygen?
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